A proper understanding of anal sex is important for anyone wishing to experiment and discover how best to maximise the pleasure while minimising the pain. Opening and closing of the anus is controlled internally and externally by a set of circular muscles called sphincter muscles. These muscles, which are sensitive membranes made up of many nerve endings, facilitate pleasure or pain during anal sex.
Read my ten simple points below to learn more.
1. Mental preparation.
In a homosexual relationship anal sex is natural so just enjoy it.
If you have a heterosexual relationship it can be more difficult because obviously vaginal penetration is the normal traditional sexual route of choice. For a lot of women, anal sex makes them feel subordinate which can be a problem. So speak to your partner about it beforehand, tell her if you really want to try it or if the idea turns you on.
2. Preparing your body
It is very important to clean your colon before anal sex. I never eat for some hours before it as food can make your stomach move and take up lots of space. When your partner enters you with his penis it must be clean. You can buy special anal showers in sex shops or in some pharmacies. You can also use comfortably warm water to clean it more.
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It is very important for both partners to use lubricants during anal sex as the rectum does not produce liquid naturally. Use a water based lubricant … try my favourite Eros Acqua pjur.
4. Relaxing your partner
A lot of people are nervous of anal sex because they are afraid there will be too much pain involved. So it’s very important to prepare your body and your back muscles before you start. Enjoy good relaxing foreplay and give the woman a clitoral or vaginal orgasm. When this happens her sexual organs naturally fill up with blood and expand. At that stage she is ready to start anal penetration. Another good technique is to lick her clitoris and put one finger in her pussy and another finger slowly up her back passage. Move both fingers in harmony so that you feel feel the tips of your fingers together inside her.
5. Use a condom
Always use a condom during anal sex. This is very important. A lot of people think that just because there is no risk of getting pregnant that you do not need a condom. This is wrong !! The anus is very thin and fagile and can be damaged easily. Most sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD) such as HIV, Hepatitis B,C and gonnorhea chamydia are transferable through the anus. There is a much bigger risk of infection during anal sex because with vaginal sex the walls are stronger, more flexible and much bigger.
6. Proceed with caution
Go slowly during anal sex because, as I mentioned already, the anus is very fragile. So start very slowly and proceed with caution. In the beginning you may experience pain but this can disappear in a few seconds if you are gentle and use a proper technique. The man should be very sensitive to his partners reactions and feelings at all times.
7. Doggy is best position
In my experience the best position for anal sex is doggy style . The woman’s back opens up like a flower and her abdominal wall is straight and accessible. The man has a clear unobstructed view of exactly where to put his penis and can best control his speed of entry. In the doggy position the girl can also reach behind with her hand and control the initial penetration.
8. Use of anal toys and stimulators.
There are lots of ways to give pleasure during anal sex. You can always use your finger but remember it is very important that nails are trimmed and clean. Of course the penis is nature’s primary stimulator but there are lots of anal toys available on the market too.
These are specially designed to open the woman’s anus more and to increase the pleasure threshold. They come in different shapes and sizes. Below are some of my favourites.
9. Never transfer your finger, a stimulator or your penis, with or without a condom, from the rectum to the vagina after anal sex.
Anything that enters the woman’s ass should stay out of her vagina!! A lot of bacteria is present in poo or attached to the inner walls. There is a significantly heightened risk of infection if these bacteria are introduced to the woman’s body via her vagina.
10. One tip which helps me to make anal sex more enjoyable is at the beginning, when the man starts to enter, the woman can make the same body movement as if she is going to the toilet.
Instead of constricting her asshole, which can be a natural reaction for some women, she should make the opposite movement of pushing as if going to have a “number two.” This allows her anus to open and penetration to occur easier and with less pain.
One additional word of warning:
Intense, frequent and prolonged anal sex over the course of two or three decades can lead to loss of function of the internal sphincter with possible partial or total incontinence in the last decades of life. There is no reliable intervention to reverse anal incontinence.
If you follow these 10 simple points it can introduce you to anal sex and increase your awareness of the many possibilities that exist for experimenting together. I always say that you should try everything and then decide if it is for you or not. Everyone is different. Personally I do anal when I am pushing out my limits, when I’m high on sex and I want my partner to share those extreme feelings too. I love to feel him inside me even if it is hard or painful at times.
For me sex is a legal drug and I love it !!!
Don’t be afraid to push out your limits and let me know how it goes.