Incontro spesso persone che mi dicono di essere singles, non per scelta, ma per la difficoltà di trovare la persona giusta.
Prima di tutto potrebbe essere un problema il cambiamento di ruoli fra l’uomo e la donna, le donne emancipandosi hanno occupato anche quei ruoli che, in passato, erano prerogativa degli uomini, rendendoli spesso insicuri.
E anche questo fa si che oggi pur avendo tanta vita sociale, non è facile averne una sentimentale.
Le persone, stressate o indecise, evitano rapporti che durino più di una notte.
Sono tutti concentrati sui bisogni, impegni e desideri personali, magari immediati e di corto respiro, senza essere disposte a considerare bisogni e desideri di un altro o ad allungare la vista verso l’orizzonte.
Questo ostacola la creazione di una relazione, alla quale serve empatia e disponibilità.
Ricordo che viviamo in un’epoca dove tutti o quasi hanno due vite, una reale ed una suisocials.
Possiamo conversare e scambiarci dati con persone dall’altra parte del mondo .
Ci sono poi applicazioni e siti che agevolano e favoriscono incontri fra sconosciuti.
E presto ne parlerò, ma adesso pensiamo ai metodi “vecchia maniera”.
Dunque le persone cercano ancora l’ anima gemella, ma senza successo .
Spesso il problema è che le persone vedono gli altri come oggetti, non sapendo non sapendo individuare, però, cosa vogliono veramente.
Io penso che l’ essere single involontari dipenda da diversi motivi :
- Ansia di piacere, della quale la nostra società è drogata.
- Paura di scoprirsi troppo mostrandosi subito per quelli che si è realmente.
- Precedenti storie d’amore fallite, che ci influenzano ancora.
- L’abitudine alla solitudine per chi non ha mai avuto una storia, diviene uno scudo che impedisce l’ingresso ad una persona speciale.
- La ricerca del Partner perfetto, che si sogna dall’adolescenza.
Sul punto 5 vi dico che è bello nei film e nei romanzi, ma nella realtà non è affatto romantico .
Probabilmente non state cercando qualcuno da amare, ma l’incarnazione delle vostre fantasie erotiche e sentimentali.
Quindi la ricerca del partner, secondo me, richiede 5 requisiti fondamentali, legati a scelte che dovete fare voi:
1. Sapere da SUBITO cosa state cercando.
Comunicate se volete una famiglia o un’avventura, trovare un partner sessuale o di vita: mettete subito le cose in chiaro, anche, e soprattutto, per evitare problemi in un secondo tempo.
2. Conoscere voi stessi e capire cosa potrebbe tenervi lontano da una relazione.
Se siete insicuri, paurosi o scostanti le persone accanto a voi lo avvertiranno.
3. Avere coraggio di affrontare i rischi di una nuova storia, evitare di accontentarsi per paura.
Se qualcuno vi piace davvero, andate oltre all’amicizia, dichiaratevi.
Rischiate altrimenti di fare da testimone al matrimonio di chi amavate.
4. Affrontare la vita vera.
Smettetela di rincorrere Likes e Followers, spegnete il pc.
Chiudete con il passato, affrontate le paure, lavorate su di voi, uscite a farvi conoscere dal mondo, iscrivetevi ad un corso, fate una vacanza senza la solita comitiva.
Incontrerete gente nuova con la quale avrete qualcosa in comune … l’ inizio di ogni storia.
5. Siate comprensivi ed empatici.
Il partner non è il vostro fornitore di felicità, ma la persona con la quale costruire la felicità.
Per trovare la persona giusta fate in modo di essere giusti con voi stessi, date all’altro
quella stessa complicità ed accettazione che volete per voi.
Provate a seguire questi miei consigli per migliorare come persone e rendere la vostra vita sentimentale più appagante.
E’ un metodo che ho messo a punto per quelle persone che sentono il bisogno di un’ evoluzione sentimentale.
Questo percorso, da me diviso in fasi successive, incrementerà sia la vostra autostima che la vostra capacità di comprendere il partner o le persone che vorreste accanto a voi.
Chiedetemi pure informazioni e consigli legati a questo percorso, sarò ben lieta di aiutarvi!
Come sempre ditemi cosa pensate del mio Blog,
la Vostra Monique
Ciao Monika, ma che bello leggere come scrivi..e come riesci a spiegare perfettamente le situazioni e i problemi. A proposito.. Approfitto per chiederti una cosa.. Io vorrei rincontrare una donna che ho visto solo una volta lo scorso anno.. Per ridere, mangiare, bere insieme.. E farci del buon sesso (l’anno scorso fallii ahahah).. Questa donna sei tu! Mi accontento di un sì va bene.. Ma accetto anche un no… Kiss. Massimo (Sardegna)
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